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Bad Habits of Stay-at-Home Moms

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Break those bad stay-at-home mom habits you've been sporting.

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Using baby talk on everyone, including your husband. Assuming complete strangers want to see pictures of your kids. Forgetting that not everyone wants to talk poopy diapers and snot color. Moms have many bad habits but stay-at-home moms have some that need to stop today.

Bad Habit #1: Being Ashamed of Your Stay-at-Home Mom Title

When someone asks you what you do for a living, do your eyes shift to the floor and you meekly answer that you're a stay-at-home mom? Stop being ashamed of your stay-at-home mom title. Be a happy stay-at-home mom who proudly tells anyone who will listen that you're at home with your children 24/7.

Yes, there will always be those people who think you should be out working but there are as many people who think a working mom should be at home with her children. You won't change either side's mind and it's not even worth your time to try.

You're doing what's right for your family and that's all that matters. Shout from the rooftop that you're a stay-at-home mom and wear your moniker proudly on your mom cape.

Bad Habit #2: Feeling Like You're Not Contributing to the Household

Forgive the brutal reference but ... what would your family do if the unthinkable happened to you today? They would be devastated emotionally, of course. Physically, what would they do?

You can't be replaced. But, eventually, your family would have to try to get their lives back to normal as much as possible.

Think of everything you do. Cleaning the house. Taking care of the kids. Cooking for the family. Playing nurse when your children are sick. Driving everyone where they need to go. Your everyday To-Do List is endless.

Without you, your family has to find someone or even multiple people to step into your role. Your household may be living off of one income but to say you're not contributing is a huge understatement.

Even moms who ask if it's affordable to become a stay-at-home mom quickly find that once they tally how much it would cost to keep working and paying for child care, they may actually save money by quitting their jobs and staying home.

You're contributing to your household in every way, not just financially. Don't trick yourself into thinking anything different.

Bad Habit #3: Not Doing Anything for Yourself

If the last time you did something for yourself was before you knew how to change a diaper in the dark at 3 a.m., you're more than overdue for some me-time.

Always take time for yourself, whether you have 15 minutes at home or an afternoon out of the house. You'll feel better, happier and ready to take on anything your kids throw your way (even literally)!

Bad Habit #4: Getting Caught Up in Mommy Wars

Does it really matter that you stay home with your kids and the mom next door works 50+ hours a week? Do you really care if an older mom thinks she's a better parent than a younger mom or vice versa? Should you lose sleep over the cloth diapers vs. disposable diapers debate?

Mommy Wars come in a variety of forms. But moms have enough on their plates without putting on their armor to fight this losing battle. Focus on taking care of your family and let the age-old, never-ending, petty-parenting tiffs continue without you.

Bad Habit #5: Not Making Your Own Support Group with Other Mom Friends

No one can relate to your day-to-day joys, struggles or flat-out exhaustion like your mom friends. Build lifetime friendships with other moms who get you.

They are living what you are living -- the good, the not-so-good and the sometimes frustrating. Even if you solely use Twitter to connect with other moms, just make sure you have your own support group somewhere in the world. It may take a village to raise a child but it takes an army of mom friends to get you through colic, potty training, public meltdowns, backtalk, puberty, the dating years and -- deep breath -- the wedding.

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