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Build Lifetime Friendships With Other Moms

How to Form Meaningful Friendships With SAHMs, WAHMs and Working Moms


Women in a friendship circle

Friendships are an important circle of support for moms.

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Stay-at-home moms, work-at-home moms and working moms lead different lives and maintaining your friendships will take extra effort. While friendships are a two-way street, you can do your part to be a reliable, compassionate friend to every type of mom.

Set Boundaries for Your Friendships

A stay-at-home mom may be tempted to call a working mom friend at her job. A working mom may be tempted to ask a stay-at-home mom to watch her children after school.

Set boundaries in your friendships so no on steps over the line. This doesn't mean you have to write a list of demands and ask for a signed friendship contract.

Through conversation, you can both talk about what's acceptable and what's off-limits. Good friendships won't be damaged by having a set of rules in place.

Consider Her Schedule

Think of a working mom and her schedule. At 5:30 p.m., she's probably not ready for you to swing by unannounced. She's just arrived home, hasn't had a chance to unwind or spend a lot of time with her children.

Now think of a work-at-home mom. Just because she's at home in the morning doesn't mean she's sitting on the couch staring at the TV. She's probably working while the kids are at school.

A stay-at-home mom isn't taking a nap at noon. She's preparing lunches, cleaning or out running household errands.

Be considerate of your mom friend's day and her needs before you and your children ring her doorbell. Call a couple of days in advance to see if she's up for a visit. Send her a note to tell her you're thinking of her and would like to get together soon.

Just remember her schedule may be the complete opposite of yours. Your day with the children may be winding down while hers is just getting started.

Ask About Her

Like any good friendship, think selfless instead of selfish. A stay-at-home mom may be craving adult conversation by the end of the day so it's easy to go off on a me, me, me tangent.

Don't forget about your friend. Find out about her day, if her child is feeling better and what she's doing this weekend. Listening is half the success of any friendship.

No Judging

Save the drama for primetime TV. Neither one of you needs to judge each other's parenting style, day care choice or decision to be a SAHM, WAHM or working mom. These are just a few of the potential issues that could affect your friendship.

Judging is a friendship killer. Always support each other. The decisions you make are best for your family and vice versa.

Be Cooperative

Whether you're involved in a playgroup or take advantage of programs like Mom's Day Out, most of a stay-at-home mom's activities during the day are while her working mom friends are on the clock. Don't forget to include each other and your children in your lives.

Schedule play dates later in the evening or on the weekend. Sunday evenings are perfect times for a BBQ so both families can relax together before the start of a new week.

Work together to build friendships that last a lifetime. You'll also be setting an example for your kids about the value of great friends.

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